“How to Build a Healthy Relationship?
The word “breakup” is one of the most misleading terms in today’s generation. If we consider its meaning in today’s context, it’s as if the sky and earth were breaking up with each other. Were they ever connected? It’s quite peculiar how we can break two things that were never connected.
Traditionally, reasons included caste and wealth differences, where marrying someone of a lower caste was deemed impossible because they were seen as being from a different, almost alien planet. Wealth differences often served as a substitute excuse for caste disparities, with money playing a significant role. Our writers and filmmakers perpetuated these beliefs, likely influenced by such customs themselves.
Modern reasons vary as societal norms evolve. Expectations are like harmful lemon juice that can sour even the sweetest relationships. Where do these expectations come from? Often, they are influenced by movies portraying idealized lives that may not reflect reality. But even these movies are based on individual expectations. Does it make sense to shape our lives around the expectations of others? Can one key fit every lock, or should we tailor our approach to each unique situation in life? Just as we don’t wear woolen clothes year-round, different life instances require different experiential knowledge. Thus, it’s better to craft our own life stories with love as the foundation.
Another modern issue is appearance. Here, the word “affection” comes into play. How do we justify the difference between love and affection? Consider the various images of Lord Krishna. In each image, we love him without placing criteria on his appearance or attire. Our love remains unconditional. However, in relationships, we sometimes seek partners based on superficial criteria like appearance or dominating personality traits. This is more a form of affection than true love. True love accepts everything as it is, while affection imposes conditions.
The concept of trust has also evolved. Today, trust often equates to sharing passwords for various accounts, as if this act alone solidifies trust. However, true trust transcends such gestures. It involves intuition, body language, personality, and behavior—factors that negate the need for passwords. Devotion and understanding speak louder than shared passwords ever could. Breaking someone’s trust affects not just one relationship but trust in countless others as well.
Mutual understanding is another essential element. True love is when you can comprehend each other without words. If everything requires explicit verbalization, then why do we need such communication at all?
It’s time for healthier relationships based on trust, understanding, respect, and care. Such love can endure far beyond the lifespan of the universe.”
